Finding Mr Right

"How do I know SHE / HE is the RIGHT one?"

"Did I marry the RIGHT person?"

"Is SHE / HE the one for me?"

The ANSWER is ... there is never A RIGHT ONE. So Girls and Boys, stop looking for the RIGHT one! MR and MISS RIGHT, unfortunately does not exist at all.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years or even months, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your partner's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

At this point, you and/or your better half might start asking the above questions, and started to blame each other for their unhappiness and even look outside of their relationship for fulfillment like "second boat", work, a hobby, friends, excessive TV, alcohol, drug, etc. But whether you found a second or third boat, it does not matter cos you will still fall into this cycle again.

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy.

Love in relationship is a "decision"... Not a feeling.